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Mourning

April 28th, 2011 at 10:23 am


Have you ever thought of your departure and how it would affect your loved ones?

The First Mourning (Premier Deuil) by William-Adolphe Bouguereau
Image: The First Mourning (Premier Deuil) by William-Adolphe Bouguereau.

Would you want your loved ones to:

Cry, weep, holler in despair at your departure in this life for days, weeks, or even months? Wasting resources (time, money & energy) on lengthy ceremonies, “lavish funeral parties”, or waste their time as they drown in their sorrows for your death?

- OR -

See them hold up and have the strength to carry on with life, despite the loss of someone dear to them? Having the strength and courage to move on and adapt to life without you, and showing that they can do it.

If you could look back down (or up) to the plane of the living after you die, what would you prefer to see? A bunch of wailers weeping their hearts out over spilt milk or courageous warriors who stand ready to face the next challenge?

I’d definitely choose the latter. Death teaches us to treasure every second of life we possess. Don’t let down the people who have passed on before you.

Every end marks a new beginning. Make it count.


  • Karenique

    i’m not quite sure. i’m afraid of being forgotten. when ppl weep and wallow in despair, it shows they remember me, deeply. i’m selfish like this, i guess

    • http://bennimaru.com Benn De Silva

      Yeah, emotions do override practicality, most of the time. But wouldn’t it make you feel better that they turned adversity into strength?

  • Shan

    bring out the champagne and have a party is what ill say it my video will!! scatter my ashes around a tree somewhere near a nice beach just cause i want my grandkids to have a place the “think” ill be listening to them from heaven. … so weird that this is the first blog post i read from you. hehe. so morbid

    • http://bennimaru.com Benn De Silva

      Aye, I like your idea. Death should be celebrated with joy!

      Don’t really blog much as you can see, only 5 articles up to now lol. Am very selective when it comes to what to write.

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